Don't Focus On Failure

   Internal defeat is a mindset, where you begin to believe that most new ideas will fail.  This happens when we put too much focus on 'failure'.  Unknowingly, this becomes part of our personality. Don't let this happen to you, else you will start doubting all possibilities of success.

   We will always learn from mistakes when we see them clearly as a test, examine the results, and study them closely for the reason why they went wrong. 

    Whether it is a plan, relationship, project, or trying anything new, it is better to make mistakes than do nothing at all. 

    Some of the most successful persons, I know, deal with mistakes as part of the learning. They turn all of their defeats into learning experiences. This is extremely powerful when you consider the cost of learning anything of value.

    After all, what did you spend on your education, so far? Did you think you would stop learning at a certain point in life? Did you learn from your past mistakes? Of course you did, and now you are stronger due to the corrective adjustments, you have made.

    When a child learns to ride a bicycle, there are plenty of falls along the way, and then the falling stops. However, even skilled adults fall off bicycles, sometimes.

    So, don't take past failures personally. Put them behind you and learn from each one. 

    Henry Ford and the Wright Brothers had failures, but nobody seems to remember that. Just like them, you are not a failure, but you may have failed in the past, just like they did. When you get down on yourself, look back at what you have accomplished. 

    When you take on your next project, do the research first, make a full commitment to succeed, and never mentally quit before you start. 

    Lastly, whenever it is possible, learn from the mistakes of others. To save money and time by avoiding known mistakes, pitfalls, and traps.

A Glass Jar and Two Cup Tea

    When we feel like achieving a lot in quick time and feel that 24 hours a day are not enough, than this story gets its relevance.

     A professor of Philosophy came in to his class and told his students that he is going to teach them a very important lesson of life today...

      He kept a glass Jar on table and started putting Tennis balls in it.  He continued to do so till there was no place in Jar for balls.  He asked his students “Is the jar full?”  Students promptly replied- Yes.  Now professor started putting small stones in to the jar.  On shaking jar a lot of stones occupied empty space between balls. Professor again asked his students “Is the jar full?”  Students once again replied “Yes”.  This time professor took out sand from a bag and started filling Jar with it.  Sand also occupied empty space in jar. Students started laughing at their innocence. Again the professor asked” Is the jar full now?”  All replied in one voice “Yes now it is completely filled”.  Professor now took out two cup of tea and poured it in to the jar.  Tea also settled between sand.

    Professor started explaining- Think this Jar as your life, tennis balls are most important part of your life such as God, your family, kids, friends, health etc, small stones means your job, car, house etc, sand is even smaller things like jealousy, fights etc.  Now if you would have filled jar with sand first than there have been no place for small stones and tennis balls or if you have filled it with stones first even than there would have been no place for tennis balls though sand would have come.  The same thing applies to your life-  If you will be behind small issues and waste your energy on them, there will be no time left for bigger and important things in life.  What is important for your life, it’s on you to decide. Play with kids, water plants, go on walk with family,....  Students were listening carefully, suddenly one of them asked “Sir, you did not tell about two cup tea”.  Professor smiled and told, I was wondering why no one asked this question till now!  Answer is- No matter how complete and perfect life looks to us, we must keeps a scope of drinking two cups of tea with our close friends!

Don't be an if thinker, Be a how thinker

This is the key phrase to failure- "if only". Every time we fail, we utter "if only". If only this had not happened! if only I had done differently. If only he helped me. If only....if only and so on. We are in habit of putting too much mental concentration on "if ....". This if thinking attitude drains out our energy even before starting.

To succeed, we need to become "How thinker" instead of being "if thinker". A "how thinker" will emphasizes the hows: 'How to overcome this problem?' or 'How to compensate for this shortcoming?' or 'How do I accomplish it?' This "How Thinking" attitude fills him with energy and helps him in overcoming most of obstacles. Just replace this "if thinking" with "how thinking" and see results for yourself. Next time you fail, instead of using "if .." try using "how.."! Good luck.

Be Yourself!

   It has become one of the toughest task in today's world, "Being self"!  Today we find ourself trying to match ourself with the standards of society, standards of our parents or even at time standards set by us. We all are being dishonest in this way. Being a slave to conformity is one of the most fundamental of all dishonesties.

  When we reject our specialness, forget our god-given individuality and uniqueness, we begin to lose our freedom. By becoming conformist, we lose our freedom and start becoming herd follower.  We need to show more strength, courage and character, so that we do not meekly conform to standardized ways of behaving, we need to be 'different'.

   Men and women who accomplish great tasks in this world are almost always 'characters' in the sense that they are not afraid of themselves regardless of what fashion or in attitude dictates.  They dare to be 'different'.

   So start respecting individuality, "Be yourself". You will feel more freedom and at peace. Also you will have greater chance of success in whatever you attempt.   Remember you are the unique piece of work of the creator, no one else is like you!  So by "being yourself", you are paying gratitude to the Creator! 

Nailing The Fence

    This is the story of a boy who had bad temper.  One day his father gave him a bag full of nails and a hammer. He asked his son to drive a nail in his room's wall every time he lost his temper. The boy did the same.  Soon he started realising that he was losing his temper too often.  He started controlling his temper.

    When he was able to control his temper,  he approached his father and said "Father now I can control my temper". His father replied OK Son! now take out one nail every time you  are able to control your temper.  Boy did the same. Soon all nails were out.  Boy again approached his father with the news.  This time his father took hold of his hand and took him to his room.

   The wall was full of small holes.  Father said "look son, no matter how hard you try, The wall will never be the same again."

   "We often make scare marks by our words and try to make for them afterwards.  No matter how hard we try, scare marks will remain there."

Don't Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,

when the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,

When the funds are low and the debts are high,

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest, if you must, but do not quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,

As every one of us sometimes learns,

And many a failure turns about,

When he might have won had he stuck it out;

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow—

You may succeed with another blow.

  

Often the goal is nearer than,

 It seems to a faint and faltering man,

 Often the struggler has given up,

 When he might have captured the victor’s cup,

 And he learned too late when the night slipped down,

 How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out—
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit—
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

(Taken with thanks from earn-excellence.blogspot.com)

Life Is Too Short To Waste Time Hating Anyone

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert during some point of the Journey they had an argument, and one friend Slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without

saying anything, wrote in the sand:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE .

They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning,

he wrote on a stone:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied

"When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."

LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS

IN THE SAND

AND

TO CARVE YOUR

BLESSINGS IN STONE!!!

Break Rules- To Progress!

   Strange! Ya, I often talk or write in strange way. But in the end, I'm sure it shall make sense to you. I'm talking about "Break Rules", It's not about breaking rules of society or breaking rules of traffic! My focus is on second part of phrase "To Progress". Now look for the rules which you need to break in order to progress. A real progress can not be achieve by breaking rules of society or by actions which result in harming somebody. So what is it, I'm talking about?  I'm talking about rules which put restriction on our mind. Rules which force us to focus too much on 'playing safe'. Still confused? Ok. Lets make it simple.

 If you want to succeed, if you want to progress in life, stop wasting your days searching for security and start spending your time pursuing opportunity. Sure, you are likely to meet lot of failures, but failure is nothing more than learning how to win.  You can choose to sit on sea shore in complete safety or you can take chances, dive it to the sea and look for gems waiting for a person of true courage. Time to take risks is now. Go out try new things, learn new things even if you have to risk losing it all. If you have to go Broke, its better to be at early age. You will still have enough time to recover! Remember nothing great could ever be achieved by 'playing it safe'.  In the words of Sophocles, "Fortune is not on the side of the faint-hearted."

 So go out break rules of thinking and progress in life.   

Be Greedy!

   I wish that age old saying "Don't be Greedy" be replaced with "Be Greedy!"  I owe this to great writer Robert Kiyosaki and his book "Rich Dad Poor Dad".  

   Because of this "Don't be greedy" philosophy, we all feel guilty for our greed.  However nothing can be achieved without a little bit of greed.  We progress because we all desire something better in life.  New inventions are made because be desire something better.  We work hard because we want something extra.  Greed is better than the feeing of guilt.  Feeling of guilt makes us feel bad about ourself which robs our spirit  while greed pushes us to work and results in progress. So be a bit greedy about everything in life! Too much greed, however, is bad as excess of everything is bad.

How To Attract Money!

    We all need money! And we all work harder and harder to earn it. Yet at time we find that we are not getting enough. There is a very simple solution to this, though we all find it hard to believe. Its called POWER OF GIVING. I'm sorry for limiting it to only money in title. It actually works on virtually everything. Whatever you may feel short of just give it first and see magic unfold! Just for example- if you are feeling that people are not smiling at you, start smiling yourself and see environment change around you. I know most of you experienced this at some point or other in your life and now you are saying that it does not work on money!

    Believe me it equally works not only on money but love, friendship, happiness as well. Give whatever you want and see the same rolling in to your life in plenty! Some time you may not get enough in return. It mostly happens when your concentration was on receiving while giving. Just remember to concentrate on the joy of giving while giving! The magic will unfold in your life.